How Travel can be the Optimum Breakup Healer


Sometimes, you just have to get away from it all, to escape from everyone & disconnect from everything, especially following a disastrous breakup, when your wounds are fresh and memories at home are omnipresent, when your family’s and friends’ pitiful look remind you of your failing relationship. Getting some serious space is crucial, it will help you stand up on your feet again, heal, move on and realize that you’d rather be single than being in a depressing relationship -where cons outweighs pros- and that being single is not the end of the world -absolutely not, it can be the beginning of it ;). So put down all the chocolates, and fattening so called “mood enhancers”, stop watching romantic comedies & drama, quit complaining to your friends 24/7, stop listening to sad songs, or going through old photos of you and your ex, get off that couch, pack your suitcase, book a ticket and just leave.

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“Traveling is an ideal way to reboot and refresh after a divorce -or a failing relationship- because it gives you a chance to physically and mentally get some distance from your ex, and look at things in a whole new light,” says Schaler, author of “Travel Therapy: Where do you need to go?”.
However you have to be very cautious when choosing your destination, the last thing you want is selecting one that is designed for couples; romantic cities, islands, and honeymoon spots,  activities that require a partner, or anything that has the “I need my significant other” feeling.

So when newly single avoid:
1.      Paris: where couples make out nearly everywhere, it totally has the love is in the air feeling.
2.      Venice: one of the most picturesque & unique cities in Europe, with its gondola rides, and narrow alleys.
3.      Shere (in England): where the Holiday was filmed, is not recommended at all as each step will remind you of Cameron Diaz’s & Jude Law’s love story. Also avoid any spot where your favorite romantic comedy was filmed, it will only make you feel bad and desperate for love.
4.      Traveling during Christmas time to cities that truly celebrate it: Christmas trees, decorations & carols, gloomy weather that entails holding hands, and rain that requires a gentleman to hold you the umbrella.
5.      Any destination that you were planning to visit together.

Instead pick some place that offers a challenge, join a daring experience, learn a new skill, climb a mountain, hike a scenic trek. Here are some ideas that will blow off your mind, yet will put an end to the “getting over my ex” chapter.

1.      Master Italy’s top happiness-inducing food, in the Gelato capital “Bologna”: in 2 weeks, you will be able to invent your own flavors, hand-blend your desired ingredients, learn how to use the machines to swirl and freeze your masterpiece, while given all the necessary tips to start your own Gelateria back home (gelatouniversity.com).

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2.       Meditate with Buddhist monks in South Korea through joining a Temple stay program (templestay.com) in one of the country’s dazzling temples, to be given the chance to follow their daily rituals, along with activities to promote self-reflection.

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3.        Travel for a cause by joining a 2 weeks to 6 months volunteering program in Peru, not only you will be doing a good deed, but you will learn new skills, whether through building houses, teaching languages, working at an orphanage or jungle conservation, in addition to learning some Spanish, to be living and dealing with locals on daily basis, and hiking one of the world’s top hikes; the Inca Trail to Machu Picchu.

 

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4.      Shake that belly by taking Belly Dancing classes in Istanbul -Turkey- (lesartsturcs.com), without missing some traditional Turkish pampering in one of its oldest hammams (cagalogluhamami.com.tr).

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5.      Stay away from humans, because staying around animals can be more rewarding. How about Gorilla trekking in Rwanda or Uganda? A once in a lifetime experience that will give you a true adrenaline rush. It will take adventure to another level, as you will be spotting gorillas, getting up close and personal to such beautiful creatures, without any fences or limitations.

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2014 Resolutions (Updated)


Already February the 7th without a written 2014 Resolutions list, how strange…Why this delay? Probably I’m still under the “I cannot believe that after being completely desperate about climbing Mount Kilimanjaro since 2009, Dec. 31st, 2013 I was celebrating reaching its peak” effect??? Or the fact that I wanna do so many things that I find it hard to place them in one list, to be accomplished before 2014 ends.

Until this very moment I thought I can only tick one or two out of last year’s 16 resolutions, only to find out that I am more or less done with 9-10 out of 16…FANCY THAT!

The best place to get all the inspiration is during an intense workout, try it 🙂

So here they are:

  1. Becoming a Spinning, and/or Insanity trainer (that’s my no.1 goal).
  2. Maintaining a moderated healthy lifestyle and taking weight loss as part of the process.
  3. Creating a new blog that has the website feeling, updated with regular posts, doing a business around it and becoming one of National Geographic’s, Rough Guides’, Lonely Planet’s, or Travel Channel’s picks (in the process).
  4. Doing interesting studies somewhere in Europe.
  5. Completing my hiking gear to be completely ready whenever an opportunity arises.
  6. Taking a serious decision about what I wanna do with my career, and taking serious and decisive steps towards accomplishing it. Maybe quitting my job by July 2014 to start a new one, or quitting corporate life for good to do travel writing & teaching spinning for a living*.
  7. Writing a Travel Book & getting it published.
  8. Hiking the Inca Trail up to Machu Picchu and the Amazon**.
  9. Not visiting any country/city where I have been before.
  10. Having a complete “Live like a local” experience.
  11. Volunteering somewhere in the world (Cambodia, Peru, DUNNO).
  12. Working for a Hostel in Europe.
  13. Doing Salsa or Rumba in Latin America or learn dancing moves in India.
  14. Attending a big/important football game in Europe with friends.
  15. Reaching another summit (Mont Blanc in the Alps, Toubkal in Morocco, or maybe another mountain).
  16. Joining an NOLS (nols.edu) program (very expensive, no idea how).
  17. Joining a big challenge (be it sports, photography, travel or travel writing related) and completing it successfully.
  18. Going on a Eurotrip: Portugal, Croatia (Plitvice Lakes) & Italy (Cinque Terre, Venice, Burano, Amalfi Coast & Capri) are on top of my list.
  19. Hiking the Black Forest.
  20. Cycling for a long distance, and reaching the borders of 2 different countries.
  21. Becoming regularly published in reputable online and printed magazines.
  22. Conquering one of my fears.
  23. Completing whatever hasn’t been completed from last year’s resolutions.***

Quick update (09/02/2014)    24.  Read 20 books.

25. Starting a parachuting training course (that’s my 27th birthday gift to myself).

Future Plan: Seriously considering becoming the 1st Egyptian female to reach Mount Everest’s highest peak.

* Reason why I’m hesitating about leaving my 9 to 5 job is that I believe that the more we have restrictions to do something the more we crave it, hence the fact that I am committed to a job and my non-flexible vacation make me crave traveling more. And I’m scared to lose this feeling that makes me feel alive.

** Some years ago my resolution was: If by 2014, I am not in a serious relationship and an accord with my partner that we’ll spend our honeymoon in South America, then I won’t keep myself anymore from not stepping a foot in there.

*** 2013 Resolutions…

  1. Will NEVER be FAT again, will do whatever it takes to be EXTREMELY fit. (50:50)
  2. Will pray MUCH more.
  3. Will become one HELL of a good Travel Blogger, buy my own domain & establish my own business around my Travel Passion.
  4. Will give more time, care & support to my family & friends.
  5. Will keep away from Politics (as I am).
  6. Will travel to cities and unknown places rather than capitals and famous places. (50:50)
  7. Will network & make new friends with like minded and POSITIVE people ONLY.
  8. Will do at least one activity that requires LOTS of Adrenaline rush.
  9. Will buy a new camera.
  10.  Will visit Mother Africa again or a continent where I’ve never been. (Tanzania)
  11.  Will swim in a river/sea/ocean where I’ve never swam.
  12. Will climb Mount Kilimanjaro or hike the Cinque Terre.
  13. Will apply in travel blogging & Photography contests & will win in at least one. (one of my articles was accepted to be published on worldnomads but was never published and I was never paid, hehe, and another was published on What Women Want Egyptian magazine).
  14. Will make at least one documentary about a place that I feel attached to. (made a Photomentary about Shere, in Guilford, England, UK).
  15. Will attend one international conference about Travel Blogging. (attended a workshop in London tutored by the Guardian Journalist Peter Carty).
  16. Learn first aid.

If you already don’t have one;

So go ahead, write it down, share it, everybody wants to get ideas & it works really well…

9 Reasons Why When Single “Travel As Much As You Can”


1. Lack of Responsibilities

Whether you are a guy or a girl saving for the future or for a rainy day is very important, but getting the best out of your limited time on earth is way more rewarding, so enjoy every moment and spend responsibly while you still don’t have huge responsibilities (like when you are married)

2. Traveling with a Partner Vs. Traveling Solo

Although traveling with a partner is worthwhile, but traveling while single can be AWESOME. You do whatever you feel like doing whenever you feel like it, without having to worry about what will your partner feel or think about it, or if s/he will be interested to join you or not, if s/he will let you do it or not, no jealousy, no controlling, only you & yourself.

3. No Need to Sacrifice

If you want to travel, you’ll travel without having to feel guilty about him/her for being doomed at work, or not being able to take sometime off because of a shitty boss, or worrying about saving the money for more important things.

4. No Time Constraints

Whenever you have a vacation balance and money, you will spontaneously book a ticket and go anywhere, no pre-planning is required or a 2 months’ notice/permission

5. Travel & Settle your Debts Later

You don’t have to worry if you are broke or indebted due to your last trip expenses, it’s not a big deal, no one is depending on you, so you can  travel then settle your debts later.

6. You’re FREE to Decide

You choose your destination as you please be it a deserted island, or a swamp. You don’t need to persuade him/her of how enjoyable the place is.

7. Sleeping Anywhere

You sleep anywhere & stay in very cheap/un-luxurious places without having to worry about your partner’s impression, or worrying about him/her giving you hard time, because all what matters is getting some sleep to fill your tank & re-energize for next day’s adventures.

8. Take Risks as much as you can

You can risk anything with zero worries or feeling of guilt.

9. Packing can’t get any easier

You don’t have to worry about packing because if you forget something of his/hers, you’ll guiltlessly buy a brand new one.

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TRAVEL…Why Travel???


 

“Travel is the only thing you buy that makes you richer”~Unknown

My vision in life is to push people’s limits to do what they are not used to do; hence TRAVEL and see the world.

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I do believe that we -Egyptians- come from a very strict background, that does not allow traveling or moving from our comfort zone, we -me excluded- always have those restrictions and fears from facing the unknown, and when we decide to travel we go to the famous cities and fancy places where there won’t be any challenges or surprises, we seek luxury instead of enjoying a primitive simple life, we do what other fellow travelers tell us to do, we organize every single detail in order to avoid any unexpected events, we go to ordinary places instead of seeking adventure, we use taxis instead of public transportations, we eat in luxurious restaurants instead of trying street food, we look for places to have Egyptian food instead of savoring the local cuisine.

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WEIRD, isn’t it? The funny thing is that when we travel; we do our best to show how much our Egyptian identity is dominant instead of being introduced to a new culture, while when we are in Egypt our identity is TOTALLY LOST, GONE with the wind…Why lost? Why gone? Well, most of Egypt’s restaurants serve International Cuisine, we’d rather buy an international product than a national one, the way we dress does not reflect our Egyptian identity at all, we could barely express ourselves in writing in good Arabic, we could barely handle a conversation in Arabic as we use foreign languages -mainly English- while speaking to each other although we are 100% Egyptians. Funny, isn’t it???

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We travel…hmmm, maybe yes. But that’s not what traveling is about. We always miss having the sense of place, we don’t have the guts to experience new things, to taste ethnic food, to emerge with different cultures, to experience what a primitive life is like, or to do unordinary out of the box things.

And what are you missing? A LOOOOOOT…Yes, a lot!!!

Don’t call yourself a traveler if you do anything of the aforementioned mistakes. A TRUE traveler would choose unknown places to go to, would enjoy unfamous places rather than crowded touristic spots, would go for low budget trips, would  choose cheap accommodation to save every penny and spend it on interesting activities,  would stay at hostels to mingle with fellow travelers, would eat nothing but local food even if it gives stomachaches, would do whatever it takes to feel part of the journey taken to a foreign country.

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EGYPTIANS; It is time to change this sort of SICK mentality. COME ON, MOVE your butts, LEAVE your comfort zone, you have NO idea how much you are missing. WAKE UP, have the GUTS to experience TRAVELING & having life changing journeys.